Mar 12

Red Doors
Red Doors (2005)

IMDB rating: 6.70

Plot: Red Doors tells the story of the Wongs, a bizarrely dysfunctional Chinese-American family living in the New York suburbs. Ed Wong has just retired and plots to escape his mundane life. However, the tumultuous, madcap lives of his three rebellious daughters change his plans. The eldest daughter, Samantha, is an ambitious businesswoman in Manhattan who suddenly gets cold feet about her upcoming marriage when she runs into an old high school flame. Julie, the shy middle sister, finds her life as a studious medical student turned upside down when she falls for a movie starlet visiting the hospital. Katie, the youngest sister, is a disaffected high school senior who engages in a continually escalating and dangerous prank war with her longtime neighbor and nemesis, Simon. Ultimately, Ed’s disappearance compels each daughter to examine her own understanding of the role and connection she has to the family. At the same time, the Wongs learn to live their own lives outside the invisible fences of their home.

Red Doors

Directors: Lee Georgia

Actors: Ma Tzi,Bartok Jayce,Sutherland Rossif,Stan Sebastian,Rowe Stephen,Zhao Mao,Mundi Coati,Maynard Tyler,Drama,

Are there any possible meanings to this dream?
I was talking with some guy. He told me that we, meaning me and some other girl with black hair I didn’t recognise, were supposed to kill a redheaded japaneese vampire. The red-headed guy vampire had supposedly killed one of the members of our vampire gang, and to top it off he was part of a rival gang of vampires. It was night and there was a full moon. It was slightly foggy out and the road I was driving down was completely deserted. We went to this tiny restauraunt that the guy-vamp was supposed to frequent. Being an idiot I almost entered through the exit door but managed to correct myself before actually doing so. Me and my fried sat at a booth. We bickered like siblings over stupid shit for a few moments and then I commented on her strange choice of makeup. Blue patches covered her face in different areas. Then something happened and we realised that everyone in the room with us were part of the rival gang and that they knew who we were. A blonde chick and a brunette girl jumped up and the four of us sguared off. My friend went off to the side to fight the brunette and I was stuck with the blonde. Someone said something about us being the new nemises and I replied by saying that I didn’t do the whole nemises thing and that I just wanted to kill the guy who killed my friend. The blonde came at me. She managed to shove her hand in my chest and to wrap her fingers around my heart. I grabbed her throat with one hand and used the other to grab the arm she had grabbing my heart. The sound of the other two fighting was very loud. As the blonde began to squeeze my heart she morphed into my friend Tina and everything went into slow motion. Inside of me I screamed Tina Noooooooo!!!! But no sound escaped my lips. I bit her on the wrist of the hand she had on my heart, and in doing so I semi-woke up because I was biting the blanket. But I was still half asleep so the dream continued. She squealed and let go and I ripped her throat out with my mouth. I felt bad about it because I hadn’t wanted to kill her, just my friend’s murderer. She fell to the floor, dead, and I leaped up onto the table top and shouted "anyone else want to fuck with me?!!!" Everyone froze and was staring at me. Even this blonde guy that seemed familiar, but who’s face was blurred out was staring at me. Then I woke up.

——–I thought about the dream for a few moments after and wondered if my friend Tina had been the death I was avenging. You know like one of those vision-things people sometimes get that give them last-minute inspiration?
—-If your going to answer with something about how I read too much Twilight or too many vampire books, then don’t. If your answer is not going to help me then don’t bother answering, because I really don’t want to hear it.


Awesome dream. Epic in a sense. I think it means that through your eyes life is vividly dark. And tribal. No matter if you were a vampire in your dream. I think that mortality plays a heavy role in the suggestions of events.
CollidingsunS | Feb 07, 2010


Hi, here are the symbols that I see in this dream.

To murder someone this is a need or desire to kill off, to end, something in your life.
Vampires are the undead, no longer in touch with feeling or reality. Something that you thought was gone but is trying to come back to life. A negative force that seems to have taken over someones mode of thinking.
Death is change, the old dying off in order to make way for the new. The end of an issue or relationship.
Full Moon means it’s time to shed light on a situation. Knowledge.
Foggy is the inability to see things clearly. An unclear or cloudy idea or situation.
Car shows how you are traveling through life or through a particular situation. It’s always good to be in the driver seat of the car, it means you are in control.
Road is the road of life. The type of road and condition of the road will reflect how your journey is going right now.
Restaurant is to take in spiritual, intellectual or emotional nourishment.
The Friend(s) can just be in a dream playing as themselves or can symbolize a particular quality you share with them. Can also symbolize a part of yourself that you like or don’t.
She had strange Makeup on…May mean you need to make up with someone or even yourself. Can also mean a need or desire to hide who you really are, afraid to face the truth.

Heart…usually this is a symbol for a broken heart. Do you have some guilt about breaking someones heart? Or someone broke your heart?
Any dream having to do with the mouth points to verbal communication. Take a good look at the things you say, have said or need to say.
You semi woke up and this means you need to wake up and pay attention to a particular issue in you life.
His face was blurred out…You need to face the issue, face the past, face the facts, etc. It may mean you are afraid to face something or it may symbolize a part of yourself that you do not recognize.

Hope that helps, and good dreams to you. :)
Tam D | Feb 07, 2010

Mar 03

Hard Easy, The
Hard Easy, The (2005)

IMDB rating: 5.70

Plot: Although Paul Weston and Roger Hargitay don’t know each other, they have the same problem. They both owe a lot of money, have no conceivable way to pay it back and the clock is ticking. When each gets the opportunity to join a different gang of thieves for a heist that will clear their respective debts, what choice do they possibly have? The good thing is that – it will be an easy robbery – an inside job. Unfortunately, it turns out to be the same robbery, at the same time. Suddenly this used car salesman and this yuppie stock broker find themselves in a gun battle with each other and the police, leaving them no other choice but to team up in order to get away. The hard easy takes place in a dark world where nothing is as it seems and only the lucky survive.

Directors: Ryan Ari

Actors: Thomas Henry,Boreanaz David,Dern Bruce,Weller Peter,Lachey Nick,Nelson Elimu,Busey Gary,Dee Anthony,Ashamalla Greg,Bucaro III Joe,Chambers Jacob,Dare Marc,Fairman Michael,Larkin Ted,Action,Crime,Drama,Thriller,

If I do my diploma in on line , is it will be very hard or easy to understand?
I want to do on line courses or on line diploma but I am confuse. Is this will be very hard to understand without attending classes or will be easy to understand? Are on line diplomas cheap or very expensive?


For you it will be very difficult

Evil J | May 20, 2008

Feb 19

Just Like Heaven
Just Like Heaven (2005)

IMDB rating: 6.90

Plot: Elizabeth Masterson (Reese Witherspoon), a dedicated Doctor in San Francisco, had almost no time for anything. When her sister with two kids set her up on a date, she gets into a tragic car crash and gets in a coma. Meanwhile, an artist named David Abbott (Mark Ruffalo) moves into San Francisco and coincidentally, into Elizabeth’s apartment for rent. While at the apartment, Elizabeth’s spirit haunts him. She doesn’t remember who she is, who her family is, and what she did – All that she remembered was her apartment and where everything was. To settle the arguments, Dacid agrees to figure out who Elizabeth really is. When they get close to figuring out who she is, they eventually find love in each other and as they finally know who she really is, they learn that fate really has put them both together.

Directors: Waters Mark

Actors: Ruffalo Mark,Logue Donal,Shenkman Ben,Heder Jon,Pflueger Chris,Canada Ron,Comedy,Fantasy,Romance,

what does this poem mean?……………………..?
to see a world in a grain of sand
and a heaven in a wild flower
hold infinity in the palm of your hand
and eternity in an hour


I’m not really sure "/
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind ex?qid=20100201064217AA6paDy
SAFFY' x | Feb 01, 2010


It’s all about the big being in the small.

World/big sand/small
heaven/big flower/small
infinity/big palm/small
eternity/big hour/small

The world is gigantic, even in the smallest of things.
Chris S | Feb 01, 2010


Hmmm…. I believe that it means that people can find meaning in even the smallest of things. Even things that seem insignificant can hold a wondrous amount of knowledge. It seems to urge people to stop searching for meaning in the big things and instead wonder how the small things came to be in the first place.
Alex | Feb 01, 2010


These lines are making everything that is immense or timeless (heaven, the world) smaller. Seeing heaven in a wild flower, not just seeing a flower but really appreciating the beauty and simply the existence of this flower.
Jonathan | Feb 01, 2010


I believe it is talking about the power in the little things:
"To see a world in a grain of sand"…..To think of an entire world in one grain of sand.
"and a heaven in a wild flower"……To think of the beauty, peace and comfort in just one flower, when many search for it elsewhere.
"hold infinity in the palm of your hand"……To think of everything that was, is and is to come in your hand, it is so big, but them so small.
"and eternity in an hour"…..To think of all the time in one small time frame
Nic Nac | Feb 01, 2010


It’s talking about the ability to see the "wonder" in Nature’s details (and small things) as well as an ability to enjoy one’s-self in the time available, both ot those concepts sometimes being in opposition to those who would devote more time and energy into more "lofty" pursuits.
joemoser1948 | Feb 01, 2010


The first couple lines are pretty basic. See the the world as if its a grain of sand and a flower is our heaven, Sort of like compared to everything that’s how small we are. Hold "infinity" in the palm of your hand, meaning act like everything is in the palm of your hand or within your reach. And Eternity in an hour, meaning treat every hour like its the end. I hope i helped:)
katy1441 | Feb 01, 2010

Feb 08

Be Cool
Be Cool (2005)

IMDB rating: 5.60

Plot: Streetwise mobster-turned-movie producer Chili Palmer is back, but this time Chili has abandoned the fickle movie industry and veered into the music business, tangling with Russian mobsters and gangsta rappers and taking a talented, feisty young singer named Linda Moon under his wing. From the recording studio to an Aerosmith concert to the MTV Music Awards, he manipulates events to watch them play out the Chili way, using his signature blend of wiseguy skills and negotiation tactics. It’s a dangerous business, and everyone’s looking for their next big hit.

Directors: Gray F. Gary

Actors: Travolta John,Keitel Harvey,DeVito Danny,Vaughn Vince,Cedric the Entertainer,Benjamin Andre,Tyler Steven,Pastorelli Robert,Adelstein Paul,Williams Gregory Alan,Rock The,Woods James,Comedy,Crime,Music,

What did you think of the Tebow Pro-life commercial?
I mean in a sense it seems pretty balanced for both pro-choice and pro-life, since his mom basically said she ‘chose’ not to abort him. Right?

(Yes, I’m pro-choice though this commercial was just ‘ok-cool’ for me)

Jan 17

Number One Girl, The
Number One Girl, The (2005)

IMDB rating: 2.80

Plot: Joey Scalini (Tony SCHIENA) is one of Hollywood’s biggest action stars and the undefeated full-contact martial arts world champion. When his life-long friend and London mob godfather Dragos Molnar (Vinnie JONES) invites him to serve as a celebrity judge on the televised World Fashion & Cosmetics Beauty Pageant, hosted by Mr. Sakata (PAT MORITA), Joey finds himself falling for the most beautiful contestant Tatiana, (LISA McALLISTER). He is fully aware of Dragos’ number one rule that his top four girls are always off-limit, so when he gets caught entwined with Tatiana the new Number One Girl, Dragos orders all doors to be locked and the nightclub stage to be turned into a fighting ring where Joey will have to fight his five bodyguards and Dragos himself for a fight to death. When the closest friends engage into the fiercest and bloodiest battle on live TV, there is much more at stake than the beautiful Tatiana.

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Directors: Campeau Luc

Actors: Schiena Tony,Jones Vinnie,Action,DramaThriller,

i have been seeing a guy for 2 half years and he said openly he wants to sleep with other girls too.?
we spend most days together and he sleeps at mne every night. but he is a flirt and a door man. i know that when we go out we can get naughty down round a quite corner, so what stops him doing tha with a girl while or after work, he has slept wiv a few people, but openly tells me, he said i am his number one girl!
its me he comes home to every night and its me he has family time with, all the things you do as a couple but i realy thnk he sleeps with girls after work, if i ask him he will say welll if i am there just a bt of fun and experiances. he said he wants to settle down have kids in about 5 years! am i happy with this. i do get every thing i want love wise and time but i always think about if hes had a quick one before he comes home from time to time…


Get rid. He’ll be just the same when married ! H.I.V
R | Jan 15, 2010


I don’t know how you can stand being with a man when you don’t trust that he’s not sleeping with other women. That is so gross, so disrespectful to you, and dangerous for your health. The man will never respect you as long as you don’t respect yourself. You don’t trust him, it’s time to go.
Kerry | Jan 15, 2010


No thats not a healthy relationship and I would get out of it as fast as I can. If a man loves you, he won’t fuck other women
Crazzeee X | Jan 15, 2010


Dump the chump! Monogamy should be easy and natural if you are really in love.
Avondrow | Jan 15, 2010


it is a hard decision to make.

you must have asked this question because you are not happy,or least you have doubt in your relationship.
i do think the same way as you do.he probably is messing with a few other girls.
though he is at least honest with you.
so all you have to do is to go through in your mind wether or not you are happy with what he is givingor offering you.
frankly,if i were in your position,i would not be happy and would leave him,unless i know that i am just having fun,and not going to settle on him for long terms.

everyone have to have wild time and play once in their life time,i think.
so if you think he would settle in a few years time and if you are happy with things you are getting,
unfortunately you will have to put up with this worry.
but if not,it might be the time you start thinking about moving on with your life without him.

i wish the best for you,it seems that you do deserve better than what you have to me.
anpanman | Jan 15, 2010


Nicccce
I Love The Colour Of The Sky | Jan 15, 2010


this man may well be ready to marry in 5 years, but not to you. He doesn’t respect you at all, you are just his choice at the moment and who can blame him? He gets casual sex and a steady relationship. He will eventually leave you for a women he respects if you don’t go first.
oldshoe | Jan 15, 2010


If he says that he wants to sleep with other girls, and he has in the past while the two of you were together, then it is more likely than not that he is sleeping with other girls.
Are you not officially a couple?
Because if the two of you are not in a committed relationship together then he can and will sleep with whomever he wants to, but it seems as though you would be okay with that as long as he comes home to you at the end of the day…
So basically, HE has an open relationship while YOU are committed to just him? He sleeps with other girls, but you just sleep with him?
I’m sure that he has his cake and eats it too. It seems to me that he is, very likely, sleeping with other girls.
So if he is sleeping with other girls then you can sleep with other guys, which actually wouldn’t be a bad deal; you have a ‘boyfriend’, and then other guys that you can sleep with.
But I bet if you tell him that you want to sleep with other guys, he won’t be cool with that. You should try telling him that you want to have sex with other guys and see how he reacts to that.
Because I bet what is going on here is that he thinks it’s just fine and dandy for him to be sleeping with whomever he desires to sleep with, yet if you were to do the same, he would get angry with you…and trust me, that is NOT the kind of guy that you would want to spend the rest of your life with, at all, because he would just be cheating on you left and right, whenever the opportunity strikes.
‘ if i ask him he will say welll if i am there just a bt of fun and experiances’
So that means that yes, he IS sleeping with other women.
That is proof right there this he isn’t just having sex with you, and that he isn’t committed to you.
So if I were you, I would just go have sex with whoever I wanted to as well, because it appears that you two are in an open relationship.
Also, five years down the line, when he wants to ’settle down and have kids’, he will STILL sleep with other women, because you were okay with that five years ago, so to him, that will be like the green light to go ahead and have sex with whoever he wants to then as well.
Good luck to you.
holeemel | Jan 15, 2010


If you don’t trust him, don’t stay with him. I personally would have it out with him, and ask him if there have been any other girls. By not being direct about this, he could take it as permission to do whatever he likes as long as you don’t find out about it.
Orla C | Jan 15, 2010


He is using you for sex because you have not asked for a commitment, you are so desperate you are willing to share him with other girls.He goes home to you every night because that is where he lives he pays the rent or mortgage,why should he give up his house?
So he wants to marry you and have kids in 5 more yrs. does he?
In that time you could get herpes, aids, venereal disease, pregnant,drama with someone he has hurt emotionally by using them for sex etc.
Also 5 yrs will turn into 10 yrs, 10 yrs will turn into 20 and you will not be married.
You need to move back home and tell him when he is ready to stop screwing around on you and marry you to give you a call and not before.
Ford_Craney | Jan 15, 2010

Jan 15

Goal!
Goal! (2005)

IMDB rating: 6.80

Plot: Like millions of kids around the world, Santiago harbors the dream of being a professional footballer. However, living in the Barrios section of Los Angeles, he thinks it is only that—a dream. Until one day an extraordinary turn of events has him trying out for Premiership club Newcastle United.

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Directors: Cannon Danny

Actors: Becker Kuno,Nivola Alessandro,Iures Marcel,Dillane Stephen,O’Brien Kieran,Pertwee Sean,Plana Tony,Lewis Gary,Knapman Kevin,Johnson Brian,Drama,Sport,

Steve Yzerman Or Mario Lemieux?
Steve Yzerman

Games Played- 1514
Goals- 692 8th AT
Assists- 1063 6th AT
Points- 1755 6th AT
+185
GWG- 94 7th AT
9x All Star
3x Stanley Cup Champion
Selke- 1
Conn Smythe- 1
Masterson- 1
Pearson- 1
100+ Point Seasons- 6
50+ Goal Seasons- 5
Longest Serving Captain In League History

Mario Lemieux

Games Played- 915
Goals- 690 9th AT
Assists- 1033 10th AT
Points- 1723 7th AT
+115
GWG-74 28th AT
10x All Star
2x Stanley Cup Champion
Calder Trophy
Masterson- 1x
Conn Smythe- 2x
Art Ross Trophy- 6x
Pearson Award- 4x
Hart Memorial-3x
100+ Points Seasons- 10x
50+ Goal Seasons- 6x
NHL Record Most Shorthanded Goals in a season 13
Tied For Most Goals In One Period 4
NHL record only player in history who scored over 30 power-play goals in two different seasons
NHL record only player in history who scored over 10 short-handed goals in two different seasons
NHL record only player in history to record three eight point games
NHL record four career five goal games (shares record)
NHL All-Star Game record for career goals (13, shares record)
NHL All-Star Game record for goals in a single-game (4 in 1990, shares record)
NHL All-Star Game record for points in a single-game (6 in 1988)
NHL All-Star Game record for most MVP-Awards (3, shares record)
NHL playoff record for goals in a single period (4, shares record)
NHL playoff record for goals in a single game (5, shares record)
NHL playoff record for points in a single period (4, shares record)
NHL playoff record for points in a single game (8, shares record

I wasnt even born yet during there primes of there career so for the ones who have, who was better? Judging by stats Yzerman played 600 more games and his stats are pretty much identical in goals, assists, points but the acolades/records clearly favor super mario. on the contrary stats dont show leadership ability, or Defense


Mario by far and that isn`t taking anything away from Yzerman but Mario was way better
Scott | Jan 11, 2010


There both really good, but Mario definitely is a better player.
penny | Jan 11, 2010


Tougher than it looks. Both are great leaders, but I’d have to say Yzerman is the best leader I’ve ever seen. Extrapolate Lemieux’s stats out and they rival/surpass Gretzky’s, which is certainly saying something. However, the second half of his career Yzerman was a lockdown defensive forward.

Overall…hate to say it, cause Yzerman is my favorite player, but I give the nod to Mario. Can’t go wrong with either one though.
the questioner | Jan 11, 2010


Tough call. But if you consider what Mario did in his short (in comparasion) career it is quite amazing! I give Mario the nod, but have a tonne of respect for both.
TexHabsfan | Jan 11, 2010


MARIO IS BETTER BUT I LOVE YZERMAN TOO BUT IN THE FUTURE ITS GOING TO BE CROSBY BEING BETTER THAN THESE TWO
TLO | Jan 11, 2010

Dec 29

Hostage
Hostage (2005)

IMDB rating: 6.70

Plot: Jeff Talley, a former LAPD hostage negotiator, has moved himself away from his failed career outside of Los Angeles, and away from his wife and daughter. When a convenience store robbery goes wrong in his turf, the three perpetrators move in on an unsuspecting family. But the family’s father has a secret which might compromise his kin, and one of the criminals is about to jump over the edge. Jeff Talley has to get everybody to survive the night……if he can.

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Directors: Siri Florent Emilio

Actors: Pollak Kevin,Willis Bruce,Foster Ben,Bennett Jimmy,Tucker Jonathan,Allman Marshall,Coates Kim,Knepper Robert,Doherty Ransford,Roberts Michael D.,Thriller,Drama,Crime,Action,

do you think that if the hostages held by somalian pirates are harmed , this will trigger a backlash?
on somalians in the UK ?


Wrong question. Why are there so many Somalis in the country anyway?

What positive benefits have they brought to britains economy?

Why does britain still allow such massive immigrations of Nigerians, Somalis, and numerous other nationalities with no visible means of support?

Left wing, bleeding heart liberals living in well appointed, well policed areas will probably not care and pretend that this comment is racist but that is not the case.

Millions of ordinary british people caring for children, older parents and spouses want to know why the Labour elite dont recognise that their lack of moral courage regarding the abuse of Britains welfare system is a disgrace to modern politics.

tokomakjoe | Nov 21, 2009


its a tricky one but i get your point it could escalate i hope they don’t hurt them that would be horrible as like you say there is bound to be pay back and it will not be nice ! lets try stay positive and hope they are released soon safely
Angela | Nov 21, 2009


Nah, everyone will just say, Oh well, and then forget about it.
Ben | Nov 21, 2009


Unfortunately you might be right, our streets are pretty lawless right now and the influx of Somalis who are also breaking our laws, carry knives and guns, will draw down some kind of backlash.
"Tough on crime, tough on the causes of crime!" Lol ! While he and his cronies opened the back doors to people like this without either criminal record or health checks! Perhaps we ought to ask Mr Peacemaker Blair to go and talk to the Somali pirates, i’ll get him a boat !
Helen S | Nov 21, 2009


I sincerely hope not. Somalia is a failed state which accounts for the Somalians in the UK, many who have been there for years, hoping the situation in their home countries will change so they can return.
Maya R | Nov 21, 2009


Only by "Sun" readers!:)
filya puta returns | Nov 21, 2009


to be honest i don’t know why we have so many somalians in britain anyway

there are big communities in birmingham where all kids in certain schools are somalian and who want somali or muslim teachers to teach them

there may be a backlash if the pirates harm their hostages but more people are concerned about the behaviour of the somalians in their cities….drugs and gang activities etc
michele | Nov 21, 2009


Look in the real world.
Decode this lyrics " You’ll see "
"Wonderful world"
"How long"
Cash or dead?
Alive?
Food and lodging still have to be provided?
Any further discount?
Luke 8.10-17
What do you think?
wild-man of Borneo | Nov 21, 2009


no, they’ll probably be killed, and a few days in the newspapers , then back to normal life. who would oyu backlash? peaceful somalians livingin us? bomb thier mud huts? the somallians kicked uncle sams ass in mogadishu.

the hostages sailled into pirate waters, they fell asleep on guard and had no guns to protects themsleves. a death wish.

people expect noting to go wrong, and if it does they want the govt to solve the problem, why?
jaypauldini | Nov 21, 2009


Backlash from who? The government has the power to stop the pirates (terrorist) but they do not want to. The government will protect the people in the streets because they protect the pirates in the boats. The government captures pirates then turn them loose because they say there is no government in Somalia. Britain captured pirates years ago from places that had no government, they knew how to handle them then. What has happened to the British Navy? They taking dumb pills? History shows how to get rid of pirates. If you are to dumb today to know how go back and read your history.
sailor8 | Nov 21, 2009

Dec 28

Monster-in-Law
Monster-in-Law (2005)

IMDB rating: 5.20

Plot: After years of looking for Mr. Right, Charlotte ‘Charlie’ Cantilini finally finds the man of her dreams, Kevin Fields, only to discover that his mother, Viola, is the woman of her nightmares. A recently fired news anchor who is afraid she will lose her son the way she has just lost her career, Viola determines to scare off her son’s new fiance by becoming the world’s worst mother-in-law. While Viola’s long-time assistant Ruby does her best to help Viola execute her crazy schemes, Charlie decides to fight back and the gloves come off as the two women battle it out to see just who is the alpha-female.

Directors: Luketic Robert

Actors: Vartan Michael,Scott Adam,Arnett Will,Dunham Stephen,Moses Mark,Nickel Wayne,Romance,Comedy,

Dealing with monster-in-law?
As the holidays are approaching, I’m experiencing more and more anxiety about dealing with my in-laws, particularly my mother-in-law.

Since I began dating my husband (we’ve been married for almost 3 years), I’ve listened to every form of back-biting and bad-mouthing about almost every member of the family. At first, I tried to ignore it, because it wasn’t any of my business. I should have spoken up from the very beginning, but I didn’t. All I have done is try to be nice and even out all the cruel behind-your-back comments by responding with kind or praising comments of whoever is under fire.

But now it’s my turn. I am hearing from all kinds of sources (this is a VERY gossipy family), that I am the new target, and my mother-in-law (and various other family members) have all sorts of nasty things to say about me. When I try to talk to her about it, she changes the subject or says that whatever I heard didn’t happen "the way I heard it happened."

Well, I’ve seen her use that tactic before, to people who I’ve SEEN her talking badly about. So I know it’s a lie.

These are the most passive-aggressive people that I have ever had to deal with, and I am at my breaking point. I told my husband that if I hear one more thing about "somebody having a problem about somebody else and not telling them about it to their face", then I am done with his family.

The problem is, my mother-in-law is a real queen bee. She hosts brunches and dinners at her home at least once a week, and she EXPECTS everyone to come. If I suddenly stopped going to her get-togethers – and bringing my son – it would cause some major problems.

How do I deal with this situation before I explode? All I want is an apology, but it seems pretty rude to ask somebody for an apology.

P.S. There are a host of other personal problems with this family, but this is the main one. I have always been polite, friendly, and warm to my mother-in-law, so I can’t understand her constant bad-mouthing of me and everyone else.


Wow. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. How does your husband feel? Easier said than done but if I were in your shoes I would stop going. Why? Because not only is it bad for me (and my sanity) it’s toxic for my kids. I would not want to expose my kids (and your husband should be in on this as well) to this kind of atmosphere. Even if they don’t say anything to you in front of the kids, the children can sense these things. Also, your mood will change and will eventually trickle down to your treatment of your husband and your kids.

You are the "queen bee" of your family and your priority should be your family’s well-being as a whole. And that means taking care of everybody’s emotional being along with physical, etc….If you still can’t bring yourself to stop going, maybe go for a couple of hours then leave or come towards the end of the get together. How about establishing your own family traditions on Sundays? Going out as a family to a park, church, picnic, museums, etc….Mother-in-law will not like it and she may never realize that this is causing tension in you (and hence your family) but she’s older and I doubt she will change. So for your kid’s sake and your family’s sake, think about it and talk with your husband.

They will never change and will always have someone to talk about. For now, you are it. Eventually it will be someone else, then it will come back to you again. If anyone ever talks to you about somebody else, just excuse yourself. Don’t even feed into it. By the way, for your sake I hope I’m wrong but you will never get an apology from her/them. So don’t even hold your breath for that. And even if she does, you know it’ll happen again or she won’t even mean it. Meanwhile, take stock of your life, your immediate family, and remember that you are in control of your son’s atmosphere (for now). Good luck.

Jane_S | Oct 18, 2009


YOU are the queen bee in your world. You don’t have to participate in anything you don’t want to. Ignore the talk and don’t ask about it to anyone. Forget the apology…it means nothing. You have a husband, child and household to take care of. Forget the outside stuff.
Jordan M | Oct 18, 2009


you will not change them, that is the way they are, just be yourself. They obviously don’t have a whole lot of life on their own if they have time for this crap. Just be civil, graceful, and laugh. They are pathetic. they are not worth confronting or getting into it with them on any level – they are already pretty close to the bottom.
Rebecca | Oct 18, 2009


Ignore her……when she starts in, walk away…….or just smile and say nothing. Be the bigger person and don’t gossip about anyone. But a word of advice..don’t say anything bad to your husband about his mother…….
Veritas | Oct 18, 2009


That’s how she is. The problem is with your expectations. Expect her to be as she is; you won’t be disappointed. You aren’t going to get an apology. You aren’t going to change any of them. Stop letting them get to you. What difference does it make if they’re talking about you?
ouragon | Oct 18, 2009


You said it yourself, this is a very gossipy family. The only thing you CAN do is to ignore the gossip whether it is about you or anyone else. When the gossiping starts either remove yourself or let it go in one ear and out the other and don’t make any comments.
CoeyG | Oct 18, 2009


Your husband’s family has some issues. They compensate for their own short-comings by undermining each other. That’s sad. All you can do is stay out of it. When you overhear them cutting one another up, leave the room. Go for a walk, go talk to your husband, or go seek out the person they’re gossiping about, and have a nice chat with them.

Realize that these behaviour patterns are entrenched, and you’re not going to change them on your own. You’re doing the right part by not participating in the gossip.
lola | Oct 18, 2009


Ahh, the holidays bring on the in law problems. Who goes where and how is it treated. She is from a gossipy family, so just ride it out. Mother in laws ( which I am one) do sometimes say things about their daughter in laws. She may even love you, she is just a gossip and will never change. Accept her as she is. Don’t expect an apology, that will only cause more issues. I see no reason you HAVE to go to every brunch, you must have something else to do with your son, perhaps a mommy and me class. Use your imagination
Annie | Oct 18, 2009


First of all, you need to have a series of loving conversations with your husband to bring him on board.

Once you have hubby’s buy-in, then shoot a warning shot over the bow. Call your MIL (private conversation) and tell her very sweetly that you hear that you are the subject of malicious gossip and that she is one of the primary participants. Tell her that you expect this to stop immediately and she needs to stop talking about yours (and hubby’s) business. If it does not stop, you will stop coming over for the weekly luncheons and that hubby will not bring baby over either. It is her choice.

BTW, don’t allow her to speak or justify herself. Just tell her this is what you heard and that you are not interested in hearing her explanation…simply that you expect this behavior to stop. Be strong! And if she continues to bad-mouth you, well, then she just lost access to the baby. Once she realizes your strength, she will respect you and you will be off limits. But she may have to have her go a period without seeing the baby and not having you at her soirees to comprehend your strength and resolve. The major problems are hers; not yours. She manipulates you into thinking that it is your problem, but really it is her problem if people start boycotting her events.

BTW…you participate in gossip too. You wouldn’t know that MIL were talking about you if you didn’t provide an audience to whoever it is who "oh so helpfully" is telling you what MIL is saying. What did this knowledge get you other than increase your stress level, make you want to explode, etc. You did not gain anything from this knowledge.
Tricia G | Oct 18, 2009


The idea that the average mother-in-law often considers her son-in-law to be unsuitable for her daughter (or daughter-in-law unsuitable for her son), go back to Roman times: the writer Juvenal says that you can’t be happy while the mother-in-law is still alive. Usually it states that mothers-in-law are generally overbearing, obnoxious, or unattractive.
So do not be surprised problem with mothers in law are as old as human history. Try to ignore her
bibus75 | Oct 18, 2009


you have married your husband’s gossipy family….i’m sorry.

look, talk to your husband that you don’t deserve this crap. is he supportive of you? you mother-in-law sounds controlling.

maybe, you stay home and your husband and son go to the weekly dinner thing. maybe you would go once a month instead of everyweek?

maybe look for books on how to cope with dreaded mother in-laws. there are some books out there that may teach you how to say things back (assertively) so you feel a little better of standing up for yourself with nonsense craps.
WonderWoman | Oct 18, 2009


I just want to let you know that I am going through the same thing as you right now, so I know exactly how you feel.

My husband and I no longer talk to his mother because of the bull she tried to pull with the both of us. My husband’s mother has done every little stunt that your mother in law is pulling, plus a lot more. My husbands mother not only bad mouths me, but tries to break us up.

Not only that but she talks about my husband behind his back as well as me, the worst thing of it is when I use to talk to her she use to say a lot of bad things about my husband and then deny it to my husband that she never said anything when she did.

My husband’s mother thinks she is going to come to our house for christmas but I got news for her, if she tries to come to our house for christmas she is going to regret coming.

I don’t want her no where’s around us or our house not only that but we will be going to my step mothers house where we will be both welcomed.

Anyway back to you if I was you I wouldn’t bother with her and stand up for your self, you don’t deserve to be treated that way by anybody. I do have one question for you though and the question is: What does your husband think about all of this? What does he do about it when his mother treats you like this?

Not only that but it is not good for your child/children to see you get put through this and not only that but what is your husband’s mother teaching her grandchild or grand children it is alright to treat people with disrespect?

She needs to grow up and start acting her age instead of being immature,
there is no need for adults to act the way they do. That is how children act not adults, anyway like I said if that was me I wouldn’t bother with her anymore and I would tell your husband that you are not going to put up with it anymore. Don’t let her keep doing this to you, because if you do she will keep on doing it.

Well good luck to you and don’t forget stand up for yourself and you don’t deserve that treatment. If you still talk to her tell her how you feel and if she doesn’t listen, tell her off don’t let her get away with it.

I am the same as you I have always been polite, friendly, and warm to my mother in law and I get treated the same way as you do. Not only that but I get the same treatment from the rest of the family as well as my husband’s mother.

There is nothing you can do and you can’t change a person they have to change on their own, but by the sounds of it she will never change. The only way people will change them selves is if they truly want to change, but if they don’t want to change then they won’t and they will stay miserable for the rest of their lives and try to make everybody else around them miserable with them.

Anyway good luck!
Debbie | Oct 18, 2009

Dec 28

Duma
Duma (2005)

IMDB rating: 7.20

Plot: An orphaned cheetah becomes the best friend and pet of a young boy living in South Africa.

i get this movie here Duma here and download version for PDA

Directors: Ballard Carroll

Actors: Michaeletos Alex,Scott Campbell,Rebello Nicky,Renecle Garth,Stolz Andre,Shange Ronald,Walker Eamonn,Whiteley John,Scott Clive,Adventure,Drama,Family,

Spiritually speaking, are you a bibliophile?
My current updated list of my favorite books:

Adams, Douglas:
The Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy Series~
-The Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy
-The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
-Life, the Universe and Everything
-So Long, and Thanks for All the Fish
-And Another Thing. . .
-The Salmon of Doubt

Bell, Ted:
Alex Hawke Series~
-Hawke
-Assassin
-Pirate
-Spy
-Tsar

Berenstain, Stan & Jan:
Berenstain Bears story book collection

Bradbury, Ray:
Fahrenheit 451
Something Wicked This Way Comes

Barrett, Judi:
Cloudy With A Chance of Meatballs

Brown, Marc:
Arthur story book collection

Baum, L. Frank:
The Wizard of Oz

Carle, Eric:
The Very Hungry Caterpillar

Carlin, George:
When Will Jesus Bring The Pork Chops?

Child, Linclon & Douglas Preston:
The Pendergast novels/Diogenes Trilogy~
-Relic
-Religuary
-The Cabinet of Curiosities
-Still Life with Crows
-Brimstone
-Dance of Death
-The Book of the Dead
-The Wheel of Darkness
-Cemetery Dance

Clarke, Susanna:
Jonathan Strange & Mr. Norrell

Conrad, Joseph:
The Heart of Darkness

Cooper, Susan:
The Dark is Rising Series~
-Over Sea, Under Stone
-The Dark is Rising
-Greenwitch
-The Grey King
-Silver on the Tree
Also:
-The Boggart
-The Boggart and the Monster

Funke, Cornelia:
Inkworld Trilogy~
-Inkheart
-Inkspell
-Inkdeath

Dahl, Roald:
The BFG
Charlie And The Chocolate Factory
James And The Giant Peach
The Minpins
The Witches

Dawkins, Richard:
The God Delusion

Dickens, Charles:
David Copperfield

Eastman, Philip D.:
Are You My Mother?

L’Engle, Madeleine:
A Wrinkle In Time

Fawer, Adam :
Improbable

Fitzgerald, F. Scott:
The Great Gatsby
The Pearl

Follett, Ken :
The Pillars Of The Earth
Wold Without End

Gaarder, Jostein :
Sophie’s World

Geisel, Theodor Seuss:
The Cat In The Hat
Green Eggs And Ham
Horton Hears The Who
How The Grinch Stile Christmas

Hemminway, Ernest:
A Farewell To Arms
For Whom The Bell Toll
The Old Man And The Sea

Hesse, Hermann:
Siddhartha

Jordan, Robert:
The Wheel of Time Series~
-New Spring
-The Eye of the World
-The Great Hunt
-The Dragon Reborn
-The Shadow Rising
-The Fires of Heaven
-Lord of Chaos
-A Crown of Swords
-The Path of Daggers
-Winter’s Heart
-Crossroads of Twilight
-Knife of Dreams
-The Gathering Storm
-A Towers of Midnight (book not yet finished, but I know I’ll enjoy it)
-A Memory of Light (book not yet finished, but I know I’ll enjoy it)

Juster, Norton:
The Phantom Tollbooth

Kipling, Rudyard:
The Jungle Book

Kay, Elizabeth:
The Divide Trilogy~
-The Divide
-Back to the Divide
-Jinx on the Divide

King, Stephen:
Carrie
The Dead Zone
Dreamcatcher
Duma Key
The Eyes of the Dragon
From A Buick 8
The Green Mile
Insomnia
It
Needful Things
Pet Cemetery
Salem’s Lot
The Stand

Lewis, C.S. :
The Chronicle of Narnia~
-The Magician’s Nephew
-The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe
-The Horse and His Boy
-Prince Caspian
-The Voyage of the Dawn Treader
-The Silver Chair
-The Last Battle

Lowry, Lois:
The Giver Trilogy~
-The Giver
-Gathering Blue
-Messenger

Newmark, Elle:
The Book of Unholy Mischief

Miller, Arthur:
The Crucible

Orwell, George:
Animal Farm
Nineteen Eighty-Four

Pfister, Marcus:
The Rainbow Fish

Poe, Edgar Allan:
Cast Of Amontillado, The
Fall Of The House of Usher, The
Masque Of The Red Death, The
Pit And The Pendulum
Poem(s):
The Raven

Pullman, Philip:
His Dark Material Trilogy~
-The Golden Compass
-The Subtle Knife
-The Amber Spyglass

Rawls, Wilson:
Where the Red Fern Grows

Rowling, J.K.:
Harry Potter Series~
-And the Sorcerer’s Stone
-And the Chamber of Secrets
-And the Prisoner of Azkaban
-And the Goblet of Fire
-And the Order of the Phoenix
-And the Half-Blood Prince
-And the Deathly Hallows

Sendak, Maurice:
Where The Wild Things Are

Shakespear, Williame:
The Tempest

Sachar, Louis:
Holes

Salinger, J.D:
Catcher In The Rye

Spinelli, Jerry:
Stargirl

Silverstein, Shel:
The Giving Tree
A Light In The Attic
The Missing Piece
Where The Sidewalk Ends

Steinbeck, John:
East Of Eden
Of Mice And Men

Stroud, Jonathan:
Bartimaeus Trilogy~
-The Amulet of Samarkand
-The Golem’s Eye
-Ptolemy’s Gate

Swift, Jonathan:
Gulliver’s Travels
A Modest Proposal

Taylor, Mildred D.:
The Land

Tolkien, J.R.R.:
The Lord of the Ring Trilogy~
-The Fellowship of the Ring
-The Two Towers
-The Return of the King
Also:
The Hobbit

Twain, Mark (Samuel Langhorne Clemens):
Adventures of Huckleberry Finn
Adventures of Tom Sawyer
Connecticut Yankee In King Arthur’s Court, A

Wells, H.G.:
The Island Of Dr Moreau
The Invisible Man
The Time Machine
The War Of The Worlds

White, E.B.:
Stuart Little

Verne, Jules:
Around The World In Eighty Days
A Journey To The Center Of The Earth
Twenty Thousand Leagues Und


Jesus Christ how did you type all that crap out?

And just recently I started to read a lot, and started to appreciate it a lot more thanks to my girlfriend. She reads a LOT. So I got a couple books I thought I’d be interested in, and I’m starting to really like it.

So far my favorites are:

1.) The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath
2.) The Shining by Stephen King
3.) Diary by Chuck Palahniuk
4.) 7 Steps To Midnight by Richard Matheson (I really recommend this to anyone who likes thrillers and suspense novels)

And right now I’m trying to finish Rant and Haunted both by Chuck Palahniuk.

Saint Luy Kid | Nov 21, 2009


Moderately
I read certain types of books a lot; others less.
Nerdlinger ~ | Nov 21, 2009


Only people who are mentally retarded.
Crystal | Nov 21, 2009


All my life.
CindyComesBack | Nov 21, 2009


wow that must have taken for ever to type!
Sdf | Nov 21, 2009


Yes..well, i own some books of that list
Silver | Nov 21, 2009


What?
Yopiedrota | Nov 21, 2009


wtf… O.o… i only read about like 4-5 books in my whole lifetime lol.
Snow | Nov 21, 2009


Si, I am. :D My list of books hasn’t changed from the last time you did a question like this, so I won’t re-post it.
Ghoast Kitteh | Nov 21, 2009


answer: Absolutely! I don’t want electronics or anything, I always ask for books.
Butch Vlad – Heathen JPA | Nov 21, 2009


Good selection. I was just turned on to the Pendergast series by Preston & Child a few months ago.

Based on your list, try Terry Pratchett’s Discworld books. They’re satirical fantasy at it’s best.
Off My Meds | Nov 21, 2009


Wait, the Cat in the Hat counts?

I could’ve been using it all this time…
Clay | Nov 21, 2009


I’ve read alot of those.
Crap, that actually surprised me.
Did you read Edgar Rice Burroughs, Dame Agatha Christie, Robert Louis Stevenson, that lady who writes about the siamese cat?
I’ve read a pile of Sci-fi that would make you sick.
all of Louis L’Amour and Zane Grey too
The entire collection of plays and poems by Bill Shakespeare as well. (That took quite a bit) and some early English epic poems by Chaucer (the Green Knight)
Origami | Nov 21, 2009


I’ve upwards of 150 books spanning several genres(I really don’t want to list them all).
One of my favourite words,bibliophile.
Random Panther | Nov 21, 2009


I can tell you are!
I own hundreds and hundreds of books, many of which I really like, so I’m also a bibliophile!
It helps I suppose because I want to be a fiction writer.
=P

Dec 15

Man-Thing
Man-Thing (2005)

IMDB rating: 4.00

Plot: Agents of an oil tycoon vanish while exploring a swamp marked for drilling. The local sheriff investigates and faces a Seminole legend come to life: Man-Thing, a shambling swamp-monster whose touch burns those who feel fear.

Directors: Leonard Brett

Actors: Le Nevez Matthew,Thompson Jack,Paratene Rawiri,O’Lachlan Alex,Bastoni Steve,Mammone Robert,Thompson Patrick,Zappa William,Batchelor John,Bliss Ian,Leonard Brett,Coyne James,Action,Horror,Sci-Fi,

Does This Irritate You?
I have been listening to everyone else’s theories, both religious and non religious. While this is not a question… you are welcome to bitch, complain, whatever, or even give some kind of constructive feedback. I do not say that I believe this, but it is much more convincing of a story than what I have heard so far. I did not add any of the references to support my story because it would be a waste of time since no one will believe it to be possible anyway.

Creation, Evolution Explained… theorized?

In my theory, both religion and science are both somewhat right.

To explain this, we have evolution as the natural process of what
occurred after the big bang, the forming of our universe, the
process stages of life on the earth as to all the eras with the time of the dinosaurs and early man. This is part one of our first creation, or in part.

Our Second Creation – The Missing Link – Alien intervention. At a
time in the past we were visited by a much advanced race of people looking for resources. They discovered our primitive form. They decided to splice their DNA with ours to create a slave laborer to help them mine the resources (gold), and in exchange, they would later teach us how to advance. The genetic alteration
according to that of the bibles, "And the LORD God caused a deep
sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his
ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which
the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her
unto the man."

After they had gotten their resources and were worshiped as
divine beings and helped to erect great temples, many of them
went home, back up into the sky. (space ships)
Over many years after they had some of their kind teach man
things that would help them advance… this relates to all of the
prophets and gods that walked the earth in all religions, Moses,
Jesus, Krishna, etc. So this means that they are not different,
but of the same.

The teachings of those from another planet were later corrupted
by man as a way to enslave and control the masses. In doing so
they caused wars and conflict making all of the religions and
teachings as if they were all in odds with other, yet they were
all from the same source. The teachings were also many times made
into unbelievable fairytale like stories.
Our twin personalities of both good and evil are from our dual
nature, one of a primitive source, our natural genes, and those
more advanced of the alien genes. Many have said it is the other
way around, those in religions who can not comprehend that we may
have been more primitive at any earlier time in our human
history.

Each discovered ancient civilization holds clues into many
advanced civilizations that rose and then fell to some world wide
catastrophe, which is why there is so much lost information, or
missing pieces, besides those that have been destroyed or altered
to cover them up. Each time a earth catastrophe occurred and wiped out much of the earth’s inhabitants, the time line would start over until it again reached an advanced state to meet the same fate. usually a time line of 2,000 years.

I believe that 2012 or some time soon will not mark our end, but add a new chapter to our human
history on earth, a return of these beings may be possible once again.


Don’t take any offense to what I have to say. But your statement makes you sound like a rogue Scientologist on crack.

The only reason why so many past civilizations seem so advanced is because we underestimate them. We are always so arrogant and think that we are far superior to past civilizations. But truly, we’re not that much farther ahead. We still have the same social issues as we did then.

Buddy_Lee_Hombre_de_accion | Nov 16, 2009


I believe God created evolutionary and biological processes and then let nature (small "n" as in physics and chemistry) take its course. I believe there has to be a tie between what the Bible says and what science has found to be fact (not conjecture, not theory, just fact). When/if God is ready to disclose this tie, He will remove the scales from our eyes. There are many other things He has yet to reveal, such as the location of Noah

Fog, the