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Big Bully (1996)
IMDB rating: 3.90
Plot: A writer returns to his hometown to teach high school. There he runs across his former nemesis, a bully that constantly harangued him, and now is the shop teacher. The bully’s life has been in turmoil for a long time and the return of his old foil turns his life around. Meanwhile their kids have the opposite relationship.
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Directors: Miner Steve
Actors: Moranis Rick,Arnold Tom,Tambor Jeffrey,Armstrong Curtis,Pierce Tony,Knotts Don,Bashoff Blake,McMains Cody,Waters Jr. Harry,Pankin Stuart,Ross Justin Jon,Zwiener Michael,Comedy,Drama,
How do you deal with a bossy work colleague?
I work in a school office on reception there are a few other people who work in the back office. The office manager has gone away for a few weeks so the assistant manager is filling her shoes, meanwhile one of the other ladies who usually only work 3 days a week has increased her days and is covering the assistant managers role. Well this lady is a loud mouth at the best of times but she is becoming even more bossy and controlling.
Usually I get on ok with her but since she is now "acting assistant manager" for the next two months she is really starting to try and interfere with everything. For example if someone comes to the front desk to ask me something she pipes up and butts in, like I can’t deal with it. Also as its a girls school we get the girls coming to the front desk asking for various things, sometimes they are a bit cheeky but I can handle them and manage to control them, but she keeps dominating the situation. She is really hard on the girls and expcts us to all be like hitler to them. Yes I have got a softer approach to them but I get the same results. I work with another lady on reception but its like we can’t be left to get on with the job and judge situations ourselves. I mean I know when I am out of my depth and need support and I know if I am stuck I have no problem askng for help but she keeps taking over.
I have been doing the job for over a year now, I have had two reviews and been told I am doing well so its not like I don’t know what I am doing. She is on this big mission to show she can sort out office out but she is becoming a controlling bully. Bossing everyone around. The thing is she is good friends with the lady who is covering the manager so I can’t really talk to her about it as they socialise together and they are always whispering (well she is whispering to her).
Why do people always want to be on control of others and be like this, I mean you can be a good manager without being a bully can’t you?
20 minutes ago – 4 days left to answer.
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I know its only a temporary thing for a couple of months but I feel that now she has been given this bit of power its going to her head.
She is on a Ego trip. you can try going to her and saying look i know your trying to help but you make me feel like i cant do my job when you do (and list what it is) i would apreciate it you could fall back a little…she is just a stand in she cant fire you
ricekrispy | Feb 02, 2010
She is dramatically insecure. It is spelt out over everything she does, from being afraid that you cannot handle the front desk, and butting in, to belittling you. Being an assistant Manager can be like a dog on a short chain for some. Now it is her turn, she is terrified that she fails at being Manager as in effect that is her job "temporarily". Keep that in mind when she is around growling next to you at the front desk.
meantime continue being you, your work performance is no issue as you have stated. So when she does come galloping to the front desk, just act as though she is not there, or pause keeping eye contact with the person you are talking to, then carry on when she has finished her sentence as though she has said nothing at all. That is kind of an ego prick if you follow what I mean.
Grin, bear it and grind your teeth. But keep your normal even pace, and carry on as you always do. It is kind of pointing out her brashness in a way.
Angelica Di'Abolique | Feb 02, 2010
yeah its like she wants to out shine every body else. maybe this is the job that she wants and by her taking over she thinks that she is going to get a promotion when the other lady comes back but don’t let her push you around and don’t let her get on your nerves. most of the time when people are like that sooner or later they outshine themselves and loose out too. don’t worry about her let her have her glory for the time that the other lady is gone ignore her because she sounds like she is a show off and also ignorant along with it, and you don’t want to show out and loose your job being ignorant with her, so play it cool and do what you can do without showing out . if you are taking care of a situation and she interferes just walk away and if she ask you any questions just tell her " i had it covered and you took over so i let you have it". and then walk away. never argue with her never say anything harsh just say it in a nice way and just walk away. and let her whisper with her friend because she is ignorant too for associating with someone like her. just keep your cool!
edie | Feb 02, 2010
You are letting her rent too much space in your head. Go to work, do the best you can and don’t take it home with you. If this woman wants to act like an @ss, let her.
prwagner3 | Feb 02, 2010
The next time she interrupts you, look her right in the eyes ,and say "I can handle this" then just handle it. If she says anything to you ask her " do I look stupid to you" If she says anything but "NO" ask her again.
I had to use this with one of the other agents in my office, It works great.
jp
olman357 | Feb 02, 2010
